My father has passed away! My mother is in the fifth stage of Parkinson’s. She’s unable to speak, move, or do anything other than express distress. She’s imprisoned within her own body, a situation some of you might grasp. I was informed by the assisted living center, where my parents had resided for a number of years, about my father’s passing. The sole purpose for contacting me was the outstanding bills. Their priority was financial, showing no concern for my father’s death, focusing solely on receiving their payment. This initial issue of unpaid bills is highly relevant to the forthcoming praise. I encourage you to continue reading, despite its length, as it might relate to your current experiences or offer insights into the future of your parents’ and your own lives.
With the bills remaining unpaid, my father’s last will transferred everything to my mother. Nevertheless, she’s unable to communicate her wishes or designate someone to manage her affairs. There’s no appointed guardian, medical surrogate, or financial representative. I needed to start researching the applicable laws. Luckily, I had a prior connection with my mother’s lawyer, enabling me to seek his advice. However, he was no longer in active practice, limiting his ability to assist with the full scope of legal requirements that surfaced as I began exploring the necessary steps to care for my mother. For clarification, I am the son, the oldest among my siblings.
The lawyer directed me to an organization known as OurSeniors. This referral proved to be a stroke of luck, as I was unaware of the extent of their future support for my mother and me. I will strive to concisely convey the magnitude of OurSeniors’ assistance, both past and present, as they have been an incredible blessing. The initial action taken by the OurSeniors Team was connecting me with the law firm of Chiumento, Dwyer, Hertel and Grant. After explaining the situation, they assigned a guardianship lawyer to handle the preparation of required documents, secure an emergency guardianship for my mother, and later facilitate the acquisition of permanent guardianship.
Next, I tried to find out about my mom’s condition, her medical care, overall health, and general well-being. I was completely lost about where to begin or who to speak with since the facility she was staying in was solely interested in financial gain. This should serve as an early indication of a problem with your relatives’ health, your partner, a sibling, or possibly even your husband or wife. The reason I mention this is because it is crucial to fully comprehend the experiences of your relatives or those you care for. In my particular circumstance, I came to the realization that things were progressing quite negatively. My mom had a strong desire to reside in this specific assisted living facility due to the fact that both my grandfather and grandmother were also residents there. At one time, this place was a perfect assisted living community, but that is no longer accurate. It was purchased by a new owner, and the designation of “Not for Profit” is no longer applicable. I was accompanied by the OurSeniors Team, and I was extremely grateful for their presence. The situation I witnessed stirred up a lot of emotion in me. If they had not been there to support me, I’m not sure how I would have handled it.
Following my discovery of the lack of adequate care she was receiving and what she was going through, I needed to move her somewhere else, but I was unsure of the destination. Given that I live 1500 miles away, I was completely unfamiliar with the local options. The OurSeniors Team, however, possessed the necessary knowledge and began the process of researching and locating a facility capable of meeting her specific requirements. Bear in mind that she has no ability to walk, speak, or even move a finger. She needs assistance with feeding, bathing, dressing, and all other tasks, which require the help of at least two people at any given time.
The OurSeniors Team was successful in identifying a number of potential locations. We assessed them, and they evaluated my mom. It requires a specialized setting to provide care for someone with stage 5 Parkinson’s disease. My intention was to find a place that would genuinely care for her, as opposed to simply medicating her. I wanted a place where she would receive nutritious meals, regular baths, opportunities to spend time outdoors, companionship, and attentive supervision. OurSeniors Team was able to locate the ideal match and they can be reached at 386 516-3969 Ext. 5.
This privately owned facility, with its semi-private setup (accommodating only two residents, ensuring that my mom would receive nearly undivided attention), had trained caregivers and medical professionals knowledgeable about her condition. The OurSeniors Team examined the facility, then they brought me to see it and I also examined it. Following that, the facility assessed and screened Mom. She was accepted there.
Mom is now in an ideal setting! I am indebted to OurSeniors, and particularly to Julian Cantillo. Julian’s actions warrant recognition of the highest order. But at the very least, if that is not possible, I can inform anyone in search of assistance for their mother, father, and/or other senior loved ones that Julian from the OurSeniors Team is the person to contact.
