“No man ever steps in the same river twice,” wrote the Greek philosopher Heraclitus over
two thousand years ago. He believed that change is the fundamental nature of the universe.
Everything flows; nothing stands still. This truth, ancient yet ever relevant, whispers to us as we approach another new year that time is a shift in numbers and life itself is in constant motion, urging us to adapt, evolve and embrace what comes next.
Even with uncertainty, growth is possible. The year ahead will bring its own tides, moments of calm, waves of challenges and opportunities to evolve. We can opt to resist or trust where it is taking us.
I don’t want to dismiss how challenging change can be. I speak from experience on this subject. The passing of my mother forced me to realize how change is constant. I was in the habit of calling her every day at 8pm to ask about her day. The days since her departure, my internal clock was a reminder of 8pm despite what I was doing at the moment. I had to evaluate aspects of my life that were not being dealt with. Change will do that for you ready or not.
On the other hand, change can also open the door to exciting new beginnings and unexpected experiences. As you read this, you might find yourself wondering: Am I open minded enough to embrace change? Have I avoided making difficult decisions because I’m afraid of the unknown?
Recognizing our fears is the first step toward moving forward. Whether it’s deciding to downsize, relocate or modify your current home to better suit your needs, embracing change begins with honesty and self-compassion. I’ve seen many seniors struggle with these decisions. Not because they don’t know what to do, but because the emotional weight of “what was” can make it hard to imagine “what’s next.” But change does not have to mean loss. It can mean freedom from maintenance, from worry, or from the isolation that sometimes comes with staying put. A move can bring new friendships, easier living, and the peace of mind that comes with living your best life today!
What if my children do not agree with my decision to move because they, too, are struggling with change? That conversation may not be an easy one, but it’s an important step that needs to happen. Honesty and openness about your feelings should be at the heat of the discussion.
Before sitting down with your children, it may be helpful to jot down your thoughts in advance. Making notes will help you express yourself clearly and focus on what truly matters: your comfort, safety and happiness. Inviting a professional into the meeting with your family to assist with questions and ease concerns.
This is why we support and we are involved with www.OurSeniors.org because they provide a range of resources for seniors, including healthcare assistance, social and educational programs, and connections to vetted local service providers. They offer a free magazine, newsletters, and podcasts, and organize events like “Lunch and Learn” sessions. The organization also focuses on helping seniors navigate the healthcare system and social services, connect with others, and find trustworthy local professionals for senior living, financial, or legal needs. To check out more resources visit: ourseniors.net or ourseniors.org and of course ourseniors.com
